The couples retreat was heavenly. Began the journey with an easy car ride through the mountains filled with deep conversations stemming from the workbook. I felt lucky in that my hubby was completely on board with the idea and I didn’t feel I was forcing him to do anything. It definitely helped that we were both extremely overworked (hubby had two days off in the past seven weeks) and were in need of time together, away from our precious kids.
The previous post centered on why we were doing a couples retreat. This post centers on how to prepare for a couples retreat (or simply time you plan together to discuss life, your relationship and direction).
While we based our retreat off a workbook specific to a Christian focus, there are any number of retreat workbooks out there. The important thing is to ask and answer questions as a couple that help get to the root of your direction in life, values and the direction you want to go for the next month, year, five years…
I highly suggest that each person review the workbook during the week before the retreat. Starting even earlier would have been helpful. The more time you have to think, pray, dream and daydream over the topics and plans for your life as a couple- the better spent your time together will be.
Focus and Ground Rules
It helps to began the trip knowing what the focus of the retreat will be and the ground rules. The focus should be on yourself and not on changing your partner. This of course triggered recall of one of my favorite quotes.
“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” ― Aldous Huxley
This is critical, as a sure way to block progress would be to bring up past grievances you have with one another. Which called to mind another favorite quote.
We proved this one to be a true but more on that in the upcoming Mountaintop Couples Retreat- Part III (sounds like a horrible movie sequel). Thankfully our retreat was anything but horrible.
After a shorter than expected drive, we arrived in Telluride, which is every bit as breathtaking as its’ reputation. We entered the resort prepared for our three days of couples visioning and planning for our family’s future.
We were then royally upgraded to a beautiful residence and patio all overlooking the view posted at the top. Gratitude, my constant mantra, was easy to come by in this moment.